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Secular Thursday: Math is too hard for girls

Posted in Secular Thursdays by Smrt Mama
Dec 10 2009
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I’m sure a lot of you remember the Barbie doll that said “Math class is tough! Let’s go shopping!” (often misquoted as “Math is hard!” Same sentiment.). With a new awareness of how culture and the education system encouraged the dumbing-down of girls in math, parents reacted quite vocally to this doll. The last thing girls needed, they said, was a doll who told them math was too difficult and that vanity and other shallow frivolities were where it’s at. Mattel responded by removing that phrase from the doll’s litany of inane statements.

Girls aren’t bad at math by nature. They don’t struggle more because of something miswired in their brains. The difficulties with math (or perceived difficulties) were programmed by culture — girls were treated as being poor at math, so many rose to fulfill that destiny. We’ve gotten better about that. Recent studies have shown a marked improvement in how girls performed in math when taught in a gender-equitable manner. When encouraged in science and math, rather than solely in the arts, girls not only perform as well as male peers, but excel. Time magazine had an entire issue on women in math. When all is said and done, girls are not bad at math. They’re just told they are, repeatedly, by society and institutions, until they believed it. Now many of us are working our damnedest to make they aren’t being told to believe it.

Today, I stumbled upon a t-shirt listing on Hyena cart, for a pink shirt made from fabric that says “I AM TOO PRETTY TO DO MATH.” Yes, too pretty to do math. That this fabric is even manufactured is repugnant, but the listing for this shirt is simply beyond the pale:

I AM TOO PRETTY TO DO MATH. Youth Raglan T, YPS 10, 12, 14, or 16

Most of us have an instant imagine of someone who this suites…
that little lady who just HATES doing her math.
Or that girl who just knows she is too pretty for this…
or the one who just don’t have the time to waste doing math.

Apparently, girls might also be too pretty to use proper grammar, capitalization, or punctuation.

Too pretty to do math. “Too pretty for this.” “One who just don’t have the time to waste doing math.” Too pretty to do math. Waste time doing math. Really? Really? ”

What is the message here? Don’t worry your pretty head with thinking, because it’s a waste of your time? What would be a better use of that time? Finding a good husband, perhaps? Or maybe the message is that only ugly women need to do math, because only ugly women need to have any kind of career. Never mind that beauty fades, husbands leave, and you little bubble heads who can’t add 2 and 2 are going to have an awfully hard time balancing your little pink sparkly checkbooks.

Does the work-at-home mom who made this listing, with its sexist and insulting message, and who chose Psalm 139:13 to adorn her store banner, believe God knit girls together too stupid for math, too vapid to do anything but fluff their hair and paint their nails? Does she really believe beauty and brains are not only mutually exclusive, but that beauty is preferable to intelligence, effort, or achievement? Who will buy this shirt, I wonder, and what lessons are they teaching their daughters? Certainly not that a girl can be both smart and beautiful, that there’s a great deal of value in making an effort (even if it doesn’t come naturally to you), or that girls can do anything.

For the record, Patchfire’s daughter, Eclectic Girl, is a math whiz, doing algebra at age 9. Math comes as naturally to her as breathing, or as naturally as language comes to Captain Science. She’s a pretty, vivacious, empowered little girl with stunning eyes and a bright pink room…and she can knock your freaking socks off with math. Don’t tell me that a girl can be “too pretty” for math. Don’t you dare.

If you’re looking for t-shirts with girl-empowering, intelligence-valuing messages, try Mind Candy Clothing.

Tagged as: gender equality, math is sexy, smart and pretty aren't mutually exclusive, stupid stuff people sell on the internet
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  • Spammity Spam » Smrt Lernins says:
    July 2, 2010 at 6:00 PM

    [...] The Slappening by Smrt Mama Jul 02 2010 TrackBack Address. So, the manufacturer of the sexist “I’m too pretty for math!” shirt I posted about seven months ago has apparently stumbled on my blog and decided to spam it. [...]

  • Ada Lovelace: Exactly pretty enough to do math » Smrt Lernins says:
    July 13, 2010 at 11:28 PM

    [...] you all know I don’t think highly of perpetuating that ridiculous cultural myth that girls are (or should be) bad at math, I’d like to invite you to check out this beautiful Heroine: Ada Lovelace tee from ThinkGeek [...]

  • Perpetuating Negative Stereotypes » Smrt Lernins says:
    July 30, 2010 at 5:31 PM

    [...] you want to know why I don’t find it amusing to perpetuate negative stereotypes about girls and math, this pretty much sums it up: “(The present study) points to the importance of creating [...]

Comments
  • noel:

    As a mother of a girl I was so offended by this message. I struggled with math as a girl and I did not want my dislike for it to affect my daughter.

    It really makes me angry because the maker of said shirt has to do math to sell her product. She has to calculate shipping, paypal costs and time spent making said shit, err shirt to make a profit right? So is she dis-empowering little girls as a whole or just her own little girl? Is she saying that girls who are good at math aren’t pretty or pretty girls aren’t good at math?

    I’d love to know.

    Reply December 10, 2009 at 7:59 PM
  • Daisy:

    Unbelievable. I hope you sent her a copy of your post.

    It’s sad, really.

    Reply December 10, 2009 at 8:36 PM
    • Smrt Mama:

      I track-backed to her comments feature. Not sure if that will work.

      Reply December 10, 2009 at 8:43 PM
  • jj:

    As someone who knits and sews, I’m curious how any woman who makes a living at it can discount the value of math. You need math to scale patterns, to adjust your knitting gauge, to calculate yardage. I mean, for god’s sakes, even if you think your little darling was “knit together” solely to be a housewife, math is pretty much the most useful subject in her schooling.

    Not even going to go into how handy it is in college and graduate school… because I’m just too pretty for that. ;-)

    Reply December 10, 2009 at 9:06 PM
  • Rivka:

    Augh! I’m also the mother of a math-loving daughter, and that shirt makes me want to tear my hair out.

    You did me no favors linking to the Mind Candy website. Must. Not. Blow #36 dollars on a “That’s Dr. Princess to You” T-shirt.

    Reply December 10, 2009 at 10:51 PM
    • Smrt Mama:

      No, you must spend $36 on “That’s Dr. Princess to You.” It’s only blowing it if it’s a waste.

      Reply December 10, 2009 at 10:56 PM
  • noel:

    I just read the ‘about me’ section on that site.


    I am a 1994 MVNC graduate. I have a BA in sociology and criminolgy with a minor in history. DH is a school teacher for the state of OHIO in a nontraditional setting.

    yah ok. She also homeschools.

    Reply December 11, 2009 at 10:05 AM
  • Kez:

    Puke.

    I wonder, would it still be Bad if I gave it to my son? He’s quite pretty, although he also likes math…

    Reply December 20, 2009 at 7:28 AM
    • Smrt Mama:

      I don’t think it would be bad. I think it would be extra awesome.

      Reply December 20, 2009 at 10:10 AM
  • Smrt Mama:

    [This comment was in response to a comment from the shirt's manufacturer. The comment was originally approved, but was later deleted after she and friends began to spam my blog with over a dozen comments in rapid succession. In order to stop the spam, I had to make all the comments as "spam."]

    You do realize that both your product and your listing were reinforcing a negative stereotype about women and math, as well as a negative stereotype about the relationship between physical attractiveness and intelligence. I’m glad your daughter is good at math, but that doesn’t make your shirt in any better taste. Also, as a business woman, perhaps you need to rethink your policy of leaving defensive comments on the blogs of someone criticizing your products. Grow a thicker skin or get out of business, because not everyone is going to like everything you make.

    I’m sure you got many hits on your site as a result of my post. I highly doubt any traffic generated by my blog resulted in a sale, however. We don’t buy shirts like that for our daughters.

    Reply July 2, 2010 at 1:50 PM
    • Aubrey:

      Of course I never read the original comment-turned-spam, but you’re dealing with it beautifully.

      Hear, hear! No, we certainly don’t buy shirts like that for our daughters. I am actually surprised that a shirt like that exists, especially for a child. I can almost picture a College student wearing one, but she would also need to have some shorts that said the same thing across her ass to complete the ensemble.

      (Psst…You don’t have to approve this comment, I just wanted to send it you anyway.)

      Reply July 4, 2010 at 1:15 AM
  • Smrt Mama:

    Incidentally, I wasn’t “attacking [your] faith,” but the rather comical juxtaposition of your choice of Biblical quote and your tasteless statements about prettiness and intelligence being mutually exclusive.

    Stop playing the poor, oppressed Christian card. Not only is it not accurate in general (Christians are not oppressed in North America, honey), but it isn’t accurate in this specific instance. I have a great deal of respect for the many intelligent Christian homeschool moms that I deal with every day. What I don’t respect is thinking being a Christian excuses poor behavior.

    Reply July 2, 2010 at 1:53 PM
  • Brigodoom:

    As a mother of 4 wonderful girls, I was bound to have at least ONE who wasn’t fond of maths, but I’ve always encouraged my children to focus on mastering the process rather than obsessing over the result. Once the method is correct, the rest will follow. Regardless if that’s the best strategy, it has afforded my girls the potential to be patient with themselves.

    The worst possible thing I could have ever done would’ve been to reinforce the frustration, OR the stereotype for that matter. Disturbing. And to think, this mum is homeshooling. Wow… *gobsmacked*

    Reply July 3, 2010 at 1:37 PM
  • Stacey:

    It’s sad that this woman homeschools…does she allow her daughters to switch from math lessons to hair/makeup lessons when the math gets too hard for them? It makes one wonder WHY a woman whose husband is a school teacher himself decides to keep her kids at home to school them. As a homeschool mom myself, I am ashamed because folks like this are the ones who reinforce the homeschool stereotypes about us being dumb or lazy (or, so it seems, pretty as well). I hope this thread will make her re-evaluate her product choices in the future.

    Reply July 15, 2010 at 11:26 PM
  • Annamaria:

    The phrase for me is actually “Shopping is hard, let’s do math!”

    Honest!

    I’m always out of food, and I need to get new bras ’cause my old ones don’t fit (I’m a university student, just now learning to fend for myself without mummy to buy me things right when I need them, or sometimes before I even know I do. I miss my mother :’( ).

    I hate shopping (I haven’t seen the inside of a mall in months, thankfully. It’s so depressing, all the things I can’t afford to buy). So I’ll procrastinate by doing something I love: Math (or reading online about education).

    Reply August 1, 2010 at 2:54 AM
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